Believing in yourself

Dear readers,

People usually think of me that I overthink. They are right. What is more, I think that I am not only an overthinker, but a ruminant. Ruminants are people who do something than overthinking. They just go round in circles in their own thoughts, exploring any possibility that might explain what they go through in lives. I have not been diagnosed with a Obsessive Compulsive Disorders, but I wouldn’t be surprised I suffer from one.

These past weeks, in one of my overthinking, I have been feeling quite down and low on energy, up to the point in which I no longer had energy to meet people. There might be many million different reasons. I know mine and with that, I have enough.

Today I self-published my third book and I have no feeling of personal achievement. So I know that a part of me is sick and broken. No longer shining despite achieving my personal goals.

However, despite my unbearable sadness, I have realised that I possess an inner strength that pushes me to keep going. When two years ago, I felt unworthy of deserving a life of happiness, today I can tell, that despite I have a long way to go, there is a shining light in me that will save me from depression.

Despite the fact that I am broken, that I feel I deserve no love, life is showing me these days totally the opposite. I am dropping tears every single day of my life, because I let several people all over my life to poison my mind, to let me think that I was a horrible being that should even be erased of existence. I no longer think this way.

Since everything ended, I went on a journey to Poland, Germany, England and very briefly to Sweden to recover the identity I had lost. During two years, I have learned many things about myself: good and bad.

I started this journey with a backpack and on my way to Santiago de Compostela. I knew from the very beginning that that would be just a warm up of all the things that I was going to live. I was not mistaken. Soon I met people who taught me I was a great person and that I did not love myself.

Then, my next chapter continued in Katowice, Poland. It was the first time in my life that I had a job outside Spain. I felt scared. I lacked the skills, but soon I could learn that I was fast enough to adapt to the new situation.

In one brief moment, I traveled from Berlin to Denmark, to take the train to Sweden where I was an exchange student in 2006-07. There I had to reconnect with all my memories when I was studying there, since I went through a critical moment in my life. After walking every corner of Lund, the city where I lived 10 months of my life, I recalled the amazing experiences I had: the new friends I made, the first kiss as a couple of a short love story I had, all the times I screwed up and so on. I remember the end, when of the members of the Lundaekonomerna in Sweden told me they discusses I was maybe one of the most open minded members.

And the screwing part is still vivid in my memory. Because this is a pattern that is repeating today, more than 10 years later in my life. And even if I do not want to admit it, it still exists: I do not love myself and this is why I keep screwing up.

2018-20 was the time where I lived in both Poland and London. I labeled myself in both countries as a person who is antisocial, cruel and a bad person who didn’t deserve to be loved. However, a part of me kept shining and without realising it, I won the hearts of many around me. In Poland I organised language exchanges where people met and couples met, people made new friends while I was watching from my darkness believing I didn’t deserve to be part of that. Then I left to England and people said they would miss me. I didn’t believe any word they said to me.

The same story happened in London, I started to meet people from my own country. During all these months, I kept thinking myself that I was a person that didn’t deserve love. However, I found surprising that people from my own country, were inviting me to parties, contacting me to talk and asking me for advise. Even some admitted to me that despite the fact that they didn’t like me in the beginning, I became one of the persons they liked the most. When I left London, some called to tell me they were missing me.

So what is wrong with me?

During these two years I have realised that the problem I have is me. I became my own enemy by self-sabotaging myself. Wherever I go, my own nature allows me to make new friends. Those who hated me in the beginning, admitted that they liked me afterwards, even that they found in me an inspiration.

Of course not everyone will see it, that some people will dump me as it happened to me many times before. However, I am starting to see that people who are choosing to be my side outnumber by far the number of people who reject me. Even, despite my mistakes because of my lack of self-worth, they choose to forgive me and stand by my side.

Then I realised, that even though I am broken and I feel unworthy, there is a part of my which keeps shining. It’s just a matter of time in which I can understand for myself that I was born for something more. That are people out there who need Jorge to be in shape and that some people are waiting for me to be inspired by my actions.

I have always seen myself as a person who lacked energy, power and determination. But every single day, even in the middle of all the tears I drop, I know that I wasn’t born to make somebody happy. I was born to be the change in the world by being an inspiration. It is just a fact of believing in myself once and for all, to become the person I am meant to be. I realised I can be a difference and I can change people’s live for the better.

This is how I feel today. It’s just a matter of learning how to believe in myself.

Broken, sad, but with hope.


Critical Thinking

Dear Readers,

Everyday, before I start my day, I open the internet browser in my phone on my way to work and check the latest news. This has become a more frequent habit since the pandemic started. I find it useful and interesting to know what is happening, not only in my country, but in the whole world in general.

I like, as anybody else, knowing the truth, however, no matter how hard I try I do not usually succeed. The access to actual and not distorted information is quite limited. We are exposed to an almost unlimited amount of information explained from different perspectives and sadly, for different purposes.

When I studied the Degree in Communication I was told that media and communication were considered the fourth power in a political system. Even though it does not officially belong to the other three official powers (legislative, executive and judicial), it has a strong influence on society and the way it thinks. Governments, big companies and other influential groups know this perfectly, so they always try to find a way to take control of any media channel, e.g. television channel, newspapers, social networks. Through them, they make public just the contents they consider population’s focus of attention must be. This is called the gatekeeper theory, which means that the owner of a certain media, so to speak, decides what story must be told on the news.

For example, think for a moment that a television channel has a weekly 40% audience rate on average, and that 70% of the shareholders belong to the owner of a big entrepreneurial group known for owning factories in developing economies, where employees work for more than ten hours a day, in horrible conditions, paid a rate per hour so low that hardly allows them to get out of a situation of poverty. Now let’s imagine that the following events happen in the world. In one country, there is a general strike so successful that working conditions change for the better and labour force have a better life-work balance and earn a higher salary. In another country, the government informs to the public they cannot keep paying the pensioners, so they decide to delay the retirement age and instead of 60, people can retire at the age of 62. What is more, the income tax and the employee’s social security contribution have increased. In order to help companies hire more people, their corporate tax is reduced from 30% to 28%.

If you were the director of contents in this television channel and you had to choose between one story or the other, which one would you choose to make both the shareholders happy?

Of course, you would tell the story of the second country. Thanks to your audience rate you can have a stronger influence on society’s general opinion. In consequence, you will have a population more willing to think that in order to save jobs and the economy, they have to work longer hours, pay more taxes and accept lower salaries.

However, thanks to the internet, everyone can access to unlimited amount of information in all imaginable forms and sources, so probably, somebody will spread the news that better working conditions are also possible. The same gatekeeper theory applies here: you can open a blog, tell about the other country’s solution to improve better working conditions. This can be helpful, indeed. Even in my book The Dagger (La Daga), the protagonist, a young journalist, uses her blog convinced that media must be used to chase corrupt businessmen (it is a critic to the actual system and media usage. The book is not meant to convince you from using media to point out every bad guy every single moment. Real life journalists have to be careful with what they publish in order not cross certain legal lines for a good story) but it is meant to help you understand that the owner of any media platform decides the contents and what you will be informed about in order to influence the way you are thinking.

The problem in all this comes that we do not only have access to unlimited information, but also to unlimited disinformation. I am sure you have heard that journalists often write fake stories. It can happen, but not because of their fault entirely. They have little time to investigate, contact sources, verify as much information as they can and write a story about a topic they are not experts in while trying to be linguistically accurate. For example, during the pandemic, many journalists with little knowledge of medicine are writing these articles you read everyday about how antibodies, tests work and how the coronavirus is passed on. I would not be surprised that health workers’ eyes bleed almost every time they read about them. As I said, I do not blame the journalists. They do their best as we all do in our jobs. Of course, some of them, against their profession, take the opportunity to express personal feelings in their articles, in order to influence the way you think.

The problem comes when intentionally, the owner of the media platform, call it a blogger, professional or just your neighbour upstairs, writes something fake in purpose or not, with little or no evidence at all. The content is viralised and then we have a new conspiracy theory that also have a powerful effect on what people think. For example: that masks contribute to make people more ill and weaker against the COVID; when, if you talk to a health worker, she might probably tell you that masks are designed to prevent you from passing on any infection to another person. Long time ago before the COVID, surgeons have been wearing masks when opening somebody’s body. This is to prevent them from passing on bacteria or other infections to the patient through droplets when breathing. I think this is the reason why. But I suggest you not to believe me and talk to a health worker, doctor, nurse, or whoever you want to so that they can provide you a better explanation.

When information and disinformation coexist at the same time, it becomes extremely difficult to believe what it is true or not. We should believe what official media says, but we have seen the contents are controlled by someone whose interests differ from us, so it might be telling the truth in a certain way or the truth they want us to know. About the non-official media, it can be true or not. We do not know, especially if we are not experts in a certain topic or we cannot prove it. What do we do? Do we watch the news? Do not we? Do we believe them? Not? We can ignore the news for a while, but we cannot be always kept in the dark.

At this point is when critical thinking enters the game. I think it is crucial and necessary to challenge the system to help society change for the better. But let’s be honest. We were not taught in school to think or question the status quo. On the contrary, we were taught to believe everything we see and hear without questioning it, follow the rules and what we are told. Even love our leaders as it happens in George Orwell’s novel 1984 (a must-read).

In my opinion, critical thinking is considered dangerous for the stability of a nation. As it happens in 1984, “too smart” people are vaporised since they can pose as a threat to the government. But in my opinion, it is even more worse not to think critically. It makes people blind and follow a call that is not theirs. This is why I think that in Spain and Catalonia there have been so many confrontations over the past years and decades. On both sides, politicians used media to tell that the other side was dangerous and some even dared to use the word nazis or terrorists to describe the Catalan separatists. Outside Catalonia, we were shown as rioters who burned containers the whole time (some extremists did). On the other hand, Catalonia has been telling its people that Spain has been robbing them and that our language is being discriminated and other bullshit (also a lie). This ended up in a situation out of control in which members of the same family ended up in fights due to different ideologies.

As people blindly believed what they were told without questioning it, the situation got out of control. Broken families, companies left Catalonia and some Spain, thanks to the show that politicians from both sides created for their own purpose, involving people in a fight that is not theirs, brother and sister against brother and sister.

This does not happen only in Spain. Sadly, it happens all around the world.

This is why I find essential that we must start thinking critically, to question everything that surrounds us. It is not a matter of believing or not what we hear or see, but a matter of considering there can always be another alternative to that truth. As we have seen, behind the piece of news there can be hidden purposes beyond telling a story. If we just take for granted it is real, we are just losing the power to decide by ourselves and become simple puppets.

However, if we question what we hear or see, we have the power to decide by ourselves if to believe it or not, and up to a certain degree (we might believe 50% for example of what a source says). That will allow us to keep our freedom as humans to decide about our future, to avoid being manipulated by other parties and keep our freedom. I know that in some cases, we do not like thinking by ourselves, but this is not the way how things should be done. It is essential that we start learning if what we want is a better future.

The Natural Way of Things

Dear readers,

These days I have been thinking about one topic. After talking to several people, I have realised that there is something in our way of thinking that in my opinion, we should change. Today I am writing about the natural way of things.

I can say I am proud that I have a broad diversity of friends. They come from different countries, they have different lifestyles, habits, sexual orientation and religious and political beliefs.

As it usually happens, when there is such a broad diversity, we all have been raised in different ways and environments. That can make us enter into conflict with our own structure of personal beliefs and values or others. Especially regarding to the way of accepting our own human nature.

In my personal case, I have grown up in a conservative environment. Which is neither right or not. It’s just the way my surroundings were. Despite of that, I can say, and my close friends and relative can confirm, I have a quiet open mind. I can talk freely about sex, politics, usually from a non-judgmental position. However, the problem comes when I look inwards. Then it’s when my own prejudices about The Natural Way of Things start to pop up.


It is common to hear that when somebody feels offended about a person who is homosexual, probably, the reason why is because that person can have homosexual tendencies as well. Honestly, I agree partially with this theory. I think it can be in some cases, but not in others. However, I believe that when we react negatively to situations like this, it is because it is part of our own nature and we do not want to accept it due to our belief system.

Of course, this has been an example. The same might happen when the following situations occur:

  • Expressing our feelings, attraction or sexual desire towards another person
  • Feeling shame of our own bodies, especially in front other people

The cause of all this is our belief system, contaminated by prejudices that the only thing that cause is to prevent us to enjoy what life offers to us and reconnected with our own essence.

Does it mean that you have to have sex with all people, walk naked in front of everyone or behave like an animal? Of course not. We have certain social rules to guarantee communal living.

The word here is respect. And what do we understand by it? It seems obvious, but it’s not. Let’s describe a few examples:

  • You see girl a wearing a short skirt. She is not looking for sex. You do not have to treat her like a slut. She is not. You also have no right to accuse her of provoking or behaving improperly. It’s her body and she has the right to do what she wants with it.
  • You see a gay couple holding hands. They are not fornicating in front of everyone. Let them do. They are just showing love to each other. Is there anything more beautiful than two people showing love to each other?
  • You feel sexual desire towards a person. You communicate it without pushing him or her. If you do it correctly, even if that person declines your offer, he or she might have a self-esteem boost.

Here, what it is wrong, and it seems that people do not understand, is not the feeling or emotion. It is the way you manifest your own nature. With respect, for example, you may look at a girl or a guy who is really attractive, show interest, try to engage into a conversation with that person and making clear you want something, but you step away when that person rejects you. The problem comes when you are, and sorry my language, fucking that person with your own eyes. Sorry, but this is repulsive. The same principle applies in other situations. You can go to a place where nudity is allowed and walk among other people who are naked. You may look, you may engage into a little spicy conversation, but you will not stalk or harass them, or making feel like sexual objects, or as if they were doing something completely wrong.

Rejecting Our Own Nature

Our attitude towards other is bad, but worse it is the attitude towards ourselves. When we deny our own nature, we are starting a self-destruction process that can put in danger, not only ourselves, but also the people surrounding us in the worst case.

I have seen many people who felt ashamed of being in love, or wanting to have sex just for fun, enjoying their own bodies or simply, exposing them in nature to feel freedom. Not everything has a sexual meaning when talking about our own nature.

In the overall, I think that we have a human need to connect with our psyche and body at the same level. What I want to say with all this is that we have to learn how to put our prejudices apart and listen to our basic instinct, letting them talk to ourselves and manifest them within the rules of respect.

Why this long article then? My idea here is simple. I think that the world is full of prejudices, archaic ideas that we should abandon as society in order to integrate different life styles that are more natural to our human needs.

I once read an article on the internet about Naked Yoga. The first thing that came to my mind was that it was a kind of deviant exercise in group to a bunch of people who were horny and probably would end up in an orgy. Fortunately, my rational brain stopped my train of thought and invited me to continue with the article.

Apparently, a class of Naked Yoga is like any other type of yoga you already know. The only difference is that all participants carry their own mats (hygienic reasons, of course), they take off their clothes and start the class all together. The idea of this kind of discipline is to bring the experience of yoga to a different level, which is learning how to accept our own bodies and others, connecting with our own nature. Are you over- or underweight? Full of hair? Short? Tall? Who cares. The most important thing here is to learn that without our clothes, we all are the same human beings, equally strong and weak, perfect just the way we are. Because when we get rid of the clothes, there are no social classes. No fancy dresses or watches, just bodies.

To sum up, I think that we as a society, we should try to reframe our way of thinking and focus more on our self-care, enjoying our nature and embracing it, putting aside our prejudices, letting others live as long as they are not harming us.

I hope you enjoyed this article.

Jorge Ruiz Fernández

Recuperar el control en tu vida

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Hay un tema que me ronda la cabeza desde hace varios días. Una de mis aficiones, a parte de escribir o aprender lenguas extranjeras, es la psicología. No soy experto ni mucho menos. Tampoco doy consejos sobre cómo debes lidiar con tus problemas personales. Para eso están los profesionales, aquellos que han estudiado su Grado en Psicología y se han especializado a través de másteres en diferentes áreas. Yo solo me dedico a coger libros de tanto en tanto que traten de temas como la autoestima, dependencia emocional o trastornos por estrés postraumático para conocer un poco más sobre estas temática.

Sin embargo, a veces me da por reflexionar. De ahí, a veces surgen ideas, que si bien nunca podrán reemplazar el trabajo de un profesional, me gusta expresarlas para aportar un nuevo punto de vista y debatir.

Tomar el control

La gente me que conoce bien sabe que soy una persona un poco obsesionada con mantener el control de las cosas, estudiar todas las posibilidades y tener previsto un plan ante cualquier imprevisto. En el modelo Bridge de estilos relacionales encajaría en el perfil de una persona tipo tierra, pues intentamos analizar el mayor número de alternativas posibles, racionalizarlo todo e intentar evitar implicar las emociones en nuestras decisiones.

Lo malo es que a veces puede ser un poco enfermizo cuando se convierte en algo obsesivo, especialmente a la hora de gestionar nuestras emociones. A veces, para evitar “desviaciones en nuestros planes”, evitamos expresar lo que sentimos hasta que las situaciones no estén casi al cien por cien a nuestro favor. Y aquí es cuando llegan los problemas, porque por querer retener el control, lo acabamos perdiendo.

Expresar nuestras emociones para recuperar el control

Traslademos este contexto al terreno de las relaciones personales. Un complejo mundo en el que los psicólogos se estrujan la cabeza para diseñar terapias que ayuden a las personas a mantener relaciones sanas. Trabajar la autoestima, aprender a marcar los propios límites, son algunas de las cosas que los profesionales nos pueden ayudar si acudimos a ellos.

Muchas veces, tanto con amigos, familiares o pareja, evitamos expresar lo que sentimos por “miedo a” lo que pueda ocurrir, por ejemplo, perder a esa persona. Desde mi punto de vista, creo que no expresamos cómo nos sentimos (tanto lo bueno, como lo malo) porque así tenemos una falsa sensación de mantener el control sobre nuestra relación con esa persona.

Me explico. Supongamos que tienes una amiga o un amigo, con el que tienes un vínculo muy estrecho. Un día, después de mucho tiempo, te das cuenta de que te estás empezando a enamorar de esa persona.

Si le expresas cómo te sientes, corres el riesgo de que esa persona no actúe como te esperas. Por ejemplo, podrían presentarse los siguientes resultados:

  • En el mejor de los casos, puede que esa persona sienta lo mismo por ti y acabéis siendo pareja.
  • Puede que no sienta lo mismo, pero quiera mantener la amistad contigo.
  • En el peor de los casos, puede que te diga que no y que encima rompa la amistad contigo.
  • Otras posibilidades.

Nosotros podemos controlar lo que vamos a hacer y elegir entre declararnos o no, pero no podemos controlar el resultado. Y aquí es donde vienen los problemas. Por tanto, elegimos callar para que las cosas sigan como están y mantengamos agarrada la sartén por el mango.

He reflexionado sobre este tema y, como es obvio, esta lógica es errónea. En verdad, cuando no expresamos lo que sentimos, perdemos el control del todo.

La razón es la siguiente: viviríamos en la incertidumbre y perderíamos la capacidad de decidir sobre lo que más nos conviene. Por tanto, creo acertado que debemos aprender a ser claros con nuestros sentimientos, sean de enfado, tristeza o alegría. Voy a explicarlo mejor con un ejemplo:

Imaginemos que una persona hace algo que nos molesta. Si callamos para evitar la confrontación, porque creemos así evitar también un conflicto, pensamos que lo mantenemos todo bajo control porque todo sigue según el plan establecido. Sin embargo, como no estamos resolviendo esos sentimientos negativos, esa persona no es consciente del daño que ha hecho y seguirá actuando igual. Además, nosotros seguiremos soportando una situación indeseable que nos hará más y más daño. En consecuencia, perdemos el control y comprometemos nuestra integridad física y mental.

Si seguimos así en todos los ámbitos de la vida, como el trabajo, los amigos o pareja, sería un sinvivir en el que constantemente estaríamos sufriendo un entorno hostil. Acabaríamos culpando a los demás de lo que nos ocurre y viviríamos amargados, cuando nosotros mismos hemos creado está situación adversa.

En cambio, si a esa persona le decimos: “Oye, me ha molestado lo que has hecho”, es decir, expresamos nuestra disconformidad, iniciamos una serie de acontecimientos que nos brindan una oportunidad de recuperar el control de nuestra vida. Supongamos que ocurre cualquiera de estos dos escenarios:

  • Escenario 1: La otra persona se disculpa y procura no hacerlo más. En este caso, hemos logrado que nuestro interlocutor sea consciente del daño causado y darle una oportunidad de disculparse. Aprendemos que podemos confiar en esa persona. No solo eso, sino que aprenderá que no debe comportarse de esa manera con nosotros. Nuestra relación se fortalece y recuperamos el control.
  • Escenario 2: la otra persona monta un escenario, te dice que no es para tanto. En este caso, aprendemos que no podemos confiar en esa persona. Como tenemos más información tenemos más poder para decidir si queremos o no mantener esa amistad en nuestra vida. En consecuencia, recuperamos el control.

En resumen, considero adecuado que para mejorar nuestras relaciones interpersonales así como nuestra calidad de vida, debemos trabajar nuestras habilidades comunicativas y ser lo más abiertos posible con nuestras emociones. Eso no significa gritar a los cuatro vientos cuando estás enamorado/a o odias a alguien en profundidad, sino a expresarlas en el momento adecuado y con las personas involucradas. De esta manera, revelamos la realidad de las personas con las que nos relacionamos, nos guste o no. Sea lo que queramos o no, esto provoca que tengamos más información y podamos tomar una decisión más acertada con base en lo que mejor nos convenga.

Y tú, ¿estás de acuerdo con este artículo?

Muchas gracias por leerme.

La Daga, Encadenado y el porqué de mis novelas

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Hace tiempo que no hablo de mis libros. Quizás este es el momento, ahora que llevo dos obras escritas y son apenas conocidas en el mercado. Hoy os hablaré de mi segunda novela: La Daga; y luego, de Encadenado.

La novela narra la historia de una periodista llamada Patricia de la Sierra, cuya misión en la vida es perseguir a todo aquel que se aprovecha del sistema para obtener un beneficio propio. El contexto de la historia se desarrolla en Barcelona, empobrecida tras largos períodos de crisis económica. Esto provoca que los índices de criminalidad se disparen, amenazando con la seguridad de la ciudad. Para saber más detalles, podéis consultar su ficha aquí.

En primer lugar, parece la típica novela policíaca en la que se busca un criminal, se le caza y ya está. Sí y no.  Lo que hace diferente a mi novela respecto a otras, es su alto contenido en crítica social.

Me inspiré en esta historia hace unos diez años. Entonces, me encontraba en mi residencia de estudiantes en el frío y oscuro invierno sueco, durante mi estancia Erasmus. Allí me relacionaba con muchos estudiantes de otros países. Cada uno tenía unas costumbres diferentes. Sin embargo, hubo algo común en todos ellos: su humanidad. Me explico.

Independiente de dónde vengamos, de nuestra religión, sexo, etcétera, nuestro corazón humano nos hace únicos en muchos rasgos de nuestro comportamiento. Rasgos étnicos o culturales son algo muy superficial y apenas impactan en nuestra personalidad más profunda.

Es innegable que los humanos poseamos cosas buenas, pero más innegable aún que poseamos muchas más cosas malas. Un ejemplo es el odio a lo diferente, nuestras ansias de poder y de destrucción. Solemos elegir el mal por encima del bien.

Muchas veces, estos comportamientos no tienen como origen una raíz maligna. De hecho, son a menudo mecanismos de defensa. Por ejemplo, una persona conflictiva en el trabajo, que pisotee a los demás, puede que se comporte así por tener que mantener a su hijo y tenga miedo de perder el trabajo. Hay muchos casos diferentes y casi todos pueden ser fundamentados.

Sin embargo, eso no significa que debamos hacer daño a los demás para satisfacer nuestras necesidades. Al contrario, deberíamos aprender a gestionar nuestras emociones para mantener un clima lo más favorable posible.

Siguiendo esta línea de pensamiento, llegué a la conclusión de que el ser humano suele elegir el mal por encima del bien por razones que no son, para nada, de origen maléfico. Aun así, sigo creyendo de que en nuestras manos existe el poder de decidir sobre nuestro destino, al menos en parte.

Por esta razón escribí La Daga, para narrar una historia que hiciera comprender que como personas, por muy insignificantes que podamos resultar en comparación al global de la población, tenemos un inmenso poder para cambiar las cosas. Muchas veces, no somos capaces de comprenderlo. Con mis libros publicados (y con los que pienso publicar), quiero lanzar ese mensaje, porque al fin y al cabo, soy una persona que tiene la convicción de que la humanidad aún puede cambiar a mejor, de que somos capaces de controlar aquello que nos hace daño y cambiar personalmente.

En Encadenado, mi primera novela y que estoy revisando en los momentos en los que escribo este artículo, narra la historia de un hombre que vive, como dice el título, encadenado a las exigencias sociales. Durante su aventura, tendrá como objetivo recuperar las riendas de su vida.

Me gusta escribir sobre estos temas. En mi vida, las excusas para cambiar algo no existen. Muchas veces las personas se estancan en sus emociones o en su forma de pensar y me entristece ver cómo algunas deciden quedarse como están. Sí, he utilizado el verbo «decidir», porque aunque parezca mentira, nuestra vida se basa en elecciones que  solo nosotros hacemos. Cuando aprendemos a que tenemos control sobre ellas, es cuando todo comienza a cambiar a mejor.

Muchas veces no es fácil y reconozco que, si los protagonistas pudieran mandarme a la mierda (perdonad la expresión), lo harían. ¿Por qué? Porque si bien podemos cambiar las cosas, hay que reconocer que avanzar no es fácil. Pero eso no debería ser nunca una excusa, pues la vida nos presenta entrenamientos en forma de retos o pruebas. Tanto si las superamos como si no, ganamos algo con el hecho de aprender algo.

Abrazad el cambio. Cueste lo que cueste.